Wednesday, November 18, 2009
Food Addiction...Is it Real?
Fortunately, I had my kids in my 20's and I knew when I became pregnant with my first child that if I didn't learn to deal with my addiction at that moment then I might teach my children to become food addicts as well and I didn't want to do that. At first they were my one and only reason to battle my addiction. I want to clarify that I am not saying parents who can't overcome it are bad parents because they are not. Our society teaches us to be addicts; it is everywhere you turn around. It just happened to be my current motivation at that particular time. But with addicts that initial motivation fades and you need to re-evaluate and find another motivation. It can be a constantly changing thing. So when you feel you are becoming weak go look for a new motivation. You have to learn to be creative. Sometimes if I start to put on a few pounds I take out a favorite form fitting outfit and put it on every morning until I can feel comfortable in it again; or it may be a bathing suit. I may take a very unflattering picture of myself and put it on my mirror so I can see it every time I fix my hair in the morning and when I wash my face before I go to bed. It could also be looking at other peoples success stories to help give me that extra motivation. Each time may be different but you have to find that ultimate motivation.
I was watching Dr. Oz today and that was what motivated me to write about this. There was a single mom on the show who was struggling with food addiction. She tried to hide it from her children but she couldn't do it so she would share her addiction with her kids. She felt so bad at times she wanted to take her own life and as much as she wanted to stop she couldn't. Dr. Oz acknowledged that it was indeed a serious addiction and helped put her into a rehab facility while a good friend watched her kids. A rehab center! Just like drug addicts and alcoholics. Praise the Lord, finally people are stating just what this horrible disease is and some people need serious intervention. I also watched Biggest Loser and this daughter talk about seeing her dad who lost over a hundred pounds. She said she was so excited because she's only seen a fat dad her whole entire life and now she has a new dad. She said she can't wait to start her journey to weight loss. Her dad loved her so much, do you think he intentionally let his daughter get overweight? No! But he's an addict and couldn't stop. Lets stop criticizing people who are overweight and when you see them out eating a double quarter pounder with cheese and a super sized fry and coke don't judge. Heck say a little silent prayer for them. Lets start educating people about this serious addiction and if you know someone who keeps trying to stop eating unhealthy foods and fail over and over again then be empathetic, get them to seek help, more help than a friend, personal trainer or a weight watchers representative has to offer. As with many addictions it's not about the actual substance, it's about emotions and compensating for those emotions. You do it because it makes you feel good, you get a rush and you want that feeling over and over again until one day you turn around and you realize you don't feel so good anymore, in fact you feel awful but it's too late, your hooked and you can't seem to do anything about it.
I'm not trying to be a downer. I just want to educate the world about this secret addiction no one wants to talk about. I want people to be empathetic to addicts and I want you to try to help them. If you are an addict then I want you to know there is hope. Find your motivation, find a good friend to support you and if all else fails find a good counselor or get into rehab. It may seem impossible because you may not be able to afford it or leave your kids but then what would happen if you die? There is always a way so don't make anymore excuses. Then once you have helped yourself then go out and help others. When I help people lose weight it's not just about the knowledge I have learned in college that I use to help them, it's about knowing what they are going through because I've been there. Not judging them but encouraging them, listening to them and supporting them when they have setbacks. I got into this field because I know how hard it is and I wish I would have had someone to support me. I felt too ashamed to talk about it to anyone. I don't want anyone to have to go through that. So I thank you for taking the time to read this. I hope you can get something out of it and help educate others. We can do it together! :)